What is Success?
I was regularly getting 4 hours of sleep because I’d finish work at 7pm, do homework until 1am, then meet people at the gym at 5:30am to run no matter the weather (and remember this is Syracuse).
I remember walking up the SU hill on freezing mornings, smugly thinking, “Look at these lazy slackers dragging themselves to their 8am class while I’ve already worked out and done an hour of engineering work.”
I savored all the outside validation I was getting for how hard I worked, how hard-core I was. How successful I was.
Seeking (someone else's version of) Success
I was killing myself seeking a version of success that wasn’t my own.
I was finding my strength not in the pursuit of a goal that felt good, but in staying so busy I could numb out things in my life that sucked and convince myself I was totally awesome.
I slogged through this 2-year process, head down, never once stopping to ask myself WHY the hell I was really doing it.
Maybe I had to go through this to learn critical lessons about success and goals. This and countless other dysfunctional experiences are what prepared me to finally live my purpose, which is giving people the reality-check and tools they need to be successful.
There’s that word again. Success.
We decided to change my title from Method Goals Coach to Method Success Coach because goals are only a small part of what I do. But did we just move from one nebulous term to another? What does a Success Coach mean?
The first and most important thing I do as a Success Coach is help you figure out what success means to YOU.
There’s no shortage of exterior sources who want to tell us how to be successful. Society, the media, cultural beliefs, our family, friends, and even people we hate all have an opinion of what we “should” do to be successful. And the crazy part is, we listen to them!!
How to Find Success
If you’re consistently feeling like you’re failing despite working so hard; if you feel frustrated with your life – your relationships, job, physical appearance, parenting, etc. I invite you to (re)consider your definition of success.
But I need to warn you that it will likely make you squirm.
It’s so much easier to feel like what we need is to drive ourselves harder and faster. To keep our head down and push. To avoid emotional and spiritual introspection AT. ALL. COSTS.
This is a recipe for failure.
You don’t want to fail. You want to succeed. So be brave and spend the time to figure out what success means for you.
If you need some help, email me!