What are you doing sitting around!? GET out there and HAVE FUN, dammit!
Hence, I consider summer inherently NOT relaxing, so I oxymoronically decided to work hard to relax this summer. Relaxing and disconnecting doesn’t come easy to me, so I was damned determined to choose moments of fun, go on the boat, spend time outdoors. Sounds great; what am I bitching about? Well, how does one relax while trying, as part of a triumvirate, to grow a busy new service business? One must consciously choose relaxing, almost voraciously, and protect those moments because when it’s time to work, it is time to WORK.
The opportunity cost showed up while I teetered between one extreme of relaxing & the other of working: I’ve gotten sloppy and complacent about taking care of myself. What does that look like? Think indulgences like far too much ice cream, BBQ'd meat, and tequila. It means I didn’t work hard on the stuff that keeps my body happy and regulated, like regular, varied, hard exercise and healthy, conscious eating.
Oh, I have lots of “reasons” for my choices, but ultimately they are really just excuses & justifications that don’t serve me. I know I’m not alone in how I feel, because I see you all out there, putting others’ needs in front of your own, not making time for the stuff that makes you feel good inside your own body. It’s a dance, isn’t it? For me, the dance has been choosing between two ends of the spectrum: relaxing hard or working hard. But in between is where I tend to find happiness, incorporating a little bit of everything, including healthy exercise and healthy eating.
I’ve been looking around at our clients who continue to inspire me throughout the summer. They work hard at their lifestyle all year. They don’t make excuses. Are some of them too hardcore for my lifestyle? Sure! But they promote the message that hard work and attention must be given consistently, regardless of what other nonsense is going on. And you know that nonsense is ALWAYS going on, so choosing any other behavior is to merely make an excuse.
And I’ve been full of them this summer: I had surgery. I hurt my heel. My hip hurts. I am t.i.r.e.d. I have too much work to do. I’m behind! I want to relax. I want to go on the boat. I want to enjoy the sun. I want to take a trip! I deserve another hot fudge sundae from Doug’s Fish Fry. Hmmmm. Yes, one more, please and thank you.
Suddenly, I cringe at occasions where yoga pants are not acceptable, appropriate attire. My pants don’t fit!
I ask you to consider that for yourself! Be kind to yourself and decide what you’re going to do to help you get back on track this fall with the things that make you happy! I’d love to hear what you choose: is it a decluttering project? Taking up art? Incorporating yoga into your week? Tell us in the comments below; maybe your idea will inspire another person who needs it! xo, Jen