For a long time, I thought irritably, “Why is she explaining all of this stuff to me? I don’t care why I have to do it. I just want to get the job done!”
One day I found myself in a work situation similar to a previous one but not exactly the same. I had to make a decision by myself for the good of the company.
Because she had explained the “why” of every situation, I was empowered to make an insightful, informed decision without getting her approval. This was a seminal moment: I was 22-years-old.
23 years have passed, and let me admit: I’m still not much of a “why” person. I’m a GSD: Get Shit Done. I love crossing stuff off my list.
IF you want to make independent, informed decisions, you need to know the why.
IF you want to effectively convey your message, you need to know the why.
IF you want to make long-term changes in your life, you need to know the why.
You probably know WHAT you want to change: the number on the scale, the size on your jeans, etc. Until you understand WHY you want to change, you will not achieve it for the long term.
Why do I want to get fit?
Why do I want to gain strength?
The answers to these questions are where you’ll find your motivation.
“I want to lose weight because I don’t feel like having sex with my husband anymore, I’m always irritated and exhausted, and I want to feel like myself.”
Well, keeping that why in mind is certainly going to keep you on track more effectively than, “Only five more pounds till I reach 136!”
Hmph! That is more personally meaningful & motivating than, “All my friends go to Method 360 and tell me I would love it.”
“I want to gain strength because I love how confident I feel when I do something I wasn’t able to do last month – like an unassisted pull up.”
WOW. Just wow.
Goal Coach Jess Ryan suggests instead of making lists of things to DO, write down how you want to FEEL.
It will empower you and give you something to hold on to when the sugar craving shows up, your bed seems too cozy to leave, or the going gets hard.
I promise you, there will be tough times. Understanding WHY you’re there will help you get through them, not some random number, weight, or size, that society has identified as the goal!
Have you watched Simon Sinek’s TED talk Start With Why? It will take about 18 minutes of your day and is absolutely worth it. Learn what your “why” is…and I’ll share ours: