The topic of goals is a popular one at Method. Some people love goals.
· lose weight
· stop yelling at my kids so much
· save money
· stop smoking
· run a marathon
· pick my wedgie during class with nobody noticing
So many different goals.
Some people hate goals.
Maybe they feel they’re too “corporate”. Or perhaps goals make them feel pressured. Or, maybe they just want to live their lives freely without setting specific goals.
So what’s the deal with goals? Are they good? Are they bad?
Truth is, no matter what words we use to describe them, we all have goals, because we all desire something. We all want to feel a certain way. (Danielle LaPorte calls these our Core Desired Feelings).
And, we all live according to our own unique set of values.
It’s when we pursue feelings that are not truly ours, and/or we (knowingly or unknowingly) compromise our values that we start to feel off. And most of the time, we don’t even realize we’re doing it.
Too often, instead of looking inward at what we want, we make decisions by looking outward for approval - from family, friends, society, and even people we don’t like! Our decisions are based on what we think we “should” do to be “successful”.
Bottom line, it doesn’t matter what you call your process, but if you want to live a fulfilling life, it’s imperative that you spend active, focused time to:
1. Identify specifically how you want to feel (your Core Desired Feelings)
2. Truly understand what is important to you in your life right now – your Values.
3. Since change is the only sure thing in life, you must regularly revisit this process. You must ask yourself constantly – what can I do right now to feel my Core Desired Feelings? Am I compromising any of my Values? Are my future goals in line with my CDFs and my Values?
Having an articulated, focused process ensures that you will “Navigate the decisions in your life based on how you most want to feel.”
If you’d like support with your goals and/or any aspect of your life, sign up for a GET RESULTS Coaching Session – it’s $57 as a stand-alone service or $50 when you sign up for an Individualized Body Assessment!