In real life: I'm 5 feet tall & look more like a leprechaun than a fitness trainer, so these letters & words add flesh to my tiny frame. They give me clout. They make me feel a little more sure of myself in the male-dominated fitness industry. I know I'm not Jillian Michaels, either...(my eyebrows are more symmetrical :) I'm strong but not perfectly defined. But look at those letters... Look at them. Are they not impressive??? Don't you feel confident in my capable, CPT, RYT, TRXL1, Ambassador hands?
Right? You do...right? Please tell me you do. OMG please tell me. You do, right? You're not just saying it to be nice...are you?
Oh... Here are two more labels to add to my list...
Trish Gallen: AAPT CPT, 200-RYT, TRXL1, Wellness Coach, Lululemon Ambassador, Insecure Being, Over-Sharer.
More labels; more words. More layers, or barriers, or connectors, depending on your perspective, I guess. We love labels! They are comforting, aren't they? They give us anchors & remind us who we are...or at least who we want people to believe we are.
They are powerful & seem very definitive. Maybe they remind us of who we want to be. When we tune them to self-proclamation, they usually have a positive spin. I mean, nobody has a business card that reads like this:
Trish Gallen: Method 360 Owner; Lululemon Ambassador; slutty, scrappy, judge-y dickface who never showers
When we label ourselves, we make sure to keep our freak flags safely hidden. I mean, think about if you were running for office. Now, choose 3 labels: best foot forward stuff; job interview material. Got 'em? Good.
Now think of someone you don't like. Get a real clear pic in your head of that person. Got ‘em? Good. Think of ONE word and label them. Off you go....
What’s the word you chose? It's probably pretty harsh, right? (Believe me: I have my person and my word, too ;) If you were face-to-face with this person, would you use that "label" to address them? 90% of the time the answer is no. Why? Because more than likely you know that this label says more about you than it really does about them. Does your label expose your insecurities or judgments? Does it expose your fears or prejudices?
I'm as guilty as you are. (Over-Sharer)
The raw truth here is that these labels are meant to attract or push away. They offer a chance to see differences OR commonalities.
Sox or Yankees? Check your box. (Your team sucks; Oh hey, we both like baseball.)
Lululemon or Nike? Check your box. (Overpriced garbage; I like fitness gear too!)
Republican or Democrat? Check your box. (Your side sucks; Oh hey, we both have opinions)
These labels may speak to "who you are", but do they close you off from other things at the same time? (GO SOX!!!!....sorry...it slipped!)
More truth? These labels are often steeped in a hot bath of biased opinion as well as the big word of the day: EGO.
The ego is great sometimes. It defines us individually & protects us in a lot of ways, but it also can be a real asshole. It seems to have a louder voice in the company of another great word: INSECURITY.
So when you are labeling yourself trying to put your best foot forward, how does that compare to the one word used to describe the person you don't like?
Here's the thing. When we label, we attract, AND we also miss opportunities to connect with people who might actually be awesome.
There is something truly likable about every person. Additionally, you can learn something new from everyone. I'm asking you to try not to let the labels get in the way.
This is what I believe: I don't have to like every single quality of someone in order to love them. Sometimes I have to work really hard to find the good stuff. But it is always there, every time, without question, and it's the essence of Method 360. It's part of why it was created the way it was. This stuff is for everybody.
Real. Team. Fitness.
Say hello. Try not to label. Work as a team.
If you don't, you might miss out on getting to know a pretty great person. ;)
Besides... People who are nicer are perceived to be more physically attractive...did you know that?!!
You're welcome .